So far, so good. We are all adjusting to our new life, and I think we're all okay. Let's see how each of us is handling things thus far:
Dylan: well, he's definitely got the most adjusting to do. He came from a place of calm to suddenly feeling cold, hot, hunger, pain, etc. He is a great baby so far, and boy can he eat! He can also sleep through anything, which is good because it's loud around here.
Gavin: Oh, my! He has surprised and impressed me so much with how he's doing. He is obsessed with the baby, always wanting to hold him and touch him. Whenever Dylan cries, Gavin will either say "shhhhhhhhhh" or OKAY!! to him. He hears me saying, "It's okay" to try to calm Dylan, and yelling OKAY! is how he tries to help. He's also more loving toward me and Luis, and overall just more gentle.
Kadence: She is already a big sister, but being a big sister to a baby is just wonderful for her. She holds him on her chest, sings him songs, and even strokes his back saying, "It's okay....your big sister's here." She melts my heart with how motherly she is. She has a doll size ring sling, and she put it on and said, "I want to put him in here and babysit him." The other morning she woke up and Dylan was still asleep in the swing, which is in our bedroom. She looked so concerned and said, "Where's the BABY???" Oh, and she also insisted on coming to the doctor with me when I took him for his checkup. She sat and watched everything they did to him and told the doctor not to give him any shots. :)
Luis: He's just amazing. I feel like the luckiest woman on earth. My husband has done so much the last month or so, and he normally does a ton around here anyway. He has taken on so much responsibility and does it with little to no grumbling. He helps me with whatever I need, takes great care of the older kids, and wants to bond and spend time with Dylan. It's a little harder since Dylan eats so darn much, but that will regulate soon. He likes to have Dylan sleep on his chest. I think his biggest struggle right now is just being so tired.
Me: I'm still recovering physically from the birth. It's been rather hard this time. I think part of it is because this was my 3rd birth in just over 3 years, and part of it is because I don't rest enough. I'm getting there though. I also feel some anxiety. I worry about people I love dying...and sometimes I can't get those images/feelings out of my head. I am quite aware of PPD/PPA, so I already told Luis how I'm feeling and to be on the lookout for any other signs of depression or anxiety. Otherwise, I'm good. I love Dylan so much. I love my other kids so much more seeing them in this new role of theirs. I love my husband more than ever. I'm still so proud of and impressed by Dylan's birth. It was perfect. He's perfect. And our life, though not perfect, is pretty darn good.